Grieving for Mandela: The Mess of Loss

  I will carry with me the memory of when I first found out that Nelson Mandela died. I was in the lobby of a hotel in midtown when my best friend put her hand on my shoulder, pointing to the TV. I didn’t register at first what they were saying, but she repeated: “Nelson […]

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Taking Stock, Talking Shop (with Myself)

Today is a day of questions. I think that regeneration requires that you ask a bunch of questions – of yourself, of others, of the universe. I’ve written about the loss of my uncle and my favorite high school teacher in the past month, and it has gotten me to turn inward. First as part […]

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Remembering Jessica Goldstein

“We are not idealized wild things. We are imperfect mortal beings, aware of that mortality even as we push it away, failed by our very complication, so wired that when we mourn our losses we also mourn, for better or for worse, ourselves. As we were. As we are no longer. As we will one […]

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The Pale Thin Light: Looking Forward after a Loss

As I shared last week, there was a recent death in my family. As a result, I’ve been struggling to process the event while still keeping myself on a regular schedule, spending time with people as they return to campus, and getting ready for the new classes that started today. In some ways, the regularity […]

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